Boundaries

Welcome to Part 3 of our series on Setting Boundaries. This article is all about how to handle your own reactions and restore your equilibrium in challenging moments. It will come in handy when you start to question whether you’re doing the right thing setting a boundary, especially one that feels uncomfortable, with someone important to [...]

Welcome to Part 2 of our series on Setting Boundaries. This article is all about handling what I call the “pushback” that happens when we introduce new boundaries in our relationships with the people in our lives. “How do I maintain the new boundaries I’ve set with my mother (85 years old), when I know she [...]

It’s been an interesting week hearing feedback about the different ways some of you have practiced setting new boundaries, communicating your desires to make positive changes in your relationships and in your lives. I get that it’s challenging, especially when you first start to make this shift in your life. Very predictably, you have hit [...]

One of the most common questions I get asked (and I get asked this one all the time!) is:  “How do I set boundaries and limits with others when I know that they’ll be angry with me, and maybe even reject me? Isn’t it better to simply go along, so that there is peace in my life?” So many people worry about everyone else’s feelings and needs at the  expense of their own and this is NOT the same thing as peace. In many situations in life, someone will end up feeling hurt, sad, disappointed, frustrated, etc. The problem when you haven’t set a boundary is that the one who’s most upset almost always ends up being YOU!  Trust me – you don’t have to settle for that. Let’s look for a moment at what happens when you are constantly putting  your own needs aside in favor of everyone else’s. The message you are essentially giving to yourself is that you don’t matter. At some point you inevitably begin to feel like a martyr, and this leads to [...]