Loren Gelberg-Goff

One of the most common questions I get asked (and I get asked this one all the time!) is:  “How do I set boundaries and limits with others when I know that they’ll be angry with me, and maybe even reject me? Isn’t it better to simply go along, so that there is peace in my life?” So many people worry about everyone else’s feelings and needs at the  expense of their own and this is NOT the same thing as peace. In many situations in life, someone will end up feeling hurt, sad, disappointed, frustrated, etc. The problem when you haven’t set a boundary is that the one who’s most upset almost always ends up being YOU!  Trust me – you don’t have to settle for that. Let’s look for a moment at what happens when you are constantly putting  your own needs aside in favor of everyone else’s. The message you are essentially giving to yourself is that you don’t matter. At some point you inevitably begin to feel like a martyr, and this leads to [...]

     Memorial Day, which dates back to the Civil War is about remembering those who fought and died for our country, and who, today continue to fight for our country, and not just the unofficial start of summer.  I want to honor our service men and women who sacrifice their lives for us, not [...]

Thank you to Dr. Margaret Paul for this insightful and helpful message: Emotional dependency means getting one’s good feelings from outside oneself. It means needing to get filled from outside rather than from within. Who or what do you believe is responsible for your emotional well-being? There are numerous forms of emotional dependency: Dependence on [...]

5 steps to a more positive attitude in life. Irving Berlin is quoted as saying: “Life is 10% what you make it and 90% how you take it.” How do you “take” your life? Do you celebrate it and value it, or do you spend your life in worry, uncertainty, fear, burdened etc? We all [...]