Ever heard this famous quote from Henry Ford? "Whether you believe you can or believe you can't, you're right." It’s true! This saying captures perfectly the importance of trusting ourselves. We can’t trust anyone else if we don’t trust ourselves first. So how do we get to a place where we “believe we can”? How [...]
Is it possible you’re actually a little afraid of a family member you also love deeply? As you begin to see and recognize your fears for what they are, it’s helpful to look for them in unexpected places, so you can calm them and bring your best self to your interactions with others. You may [...]
Did you ever hear any of these as a child? “Don’t step on a crack, or you’ll break your mother’s back!” “Boys don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses.” “Don’t cross the street – you’ll get hit by a car!” Whether they affect our willingness to try new things, or sense of personal safety, [...]
Do you know what it is to live in fear of something? Not just of big, obvious things like the weak economy, or threatening weather – but of seemingly small, everyday things? You may not even think of it as fear. For example, do you often feel unsure of yourself, or uncertain about what to [...]
What Did You Learn Growing Up About Handling Anger Effectively? Now that you’ve looked at your attitudes and internal reactions when you or someone around you gets angry, here’s the next thing to look at – the one that will really make a difference in your life: How have you learned to cope with anger [...]
Now That You Know How Your Anger Patterns Got Started, Let’s Look at When You Get Angry Anger is a hot topic (no pun intended). As discussed in the previous article, it is a feeling that everyone experiences, yet few people really want to address, talk about or deal with it directly. I want you [...]
What Were You Taught About Anger When You Were Growing Up? In our first article about family and the holidays, we talked about how the emotion of anger is - like all other emotions - really just energy – energy produced when we think we need to protect ourselves from some perceived insult or threat. [...]
How early do you start dreading the holidays? Or at least, knowing you're going to see a particular person there? Mid-September? August? June? (and if you’re one of the lucky ones whose families always get along great, enjoy your good fortune – but keep reading, so in case you ever find yourself in a less [...]
As our teleseminar addressing greater mindfulness in our relationships approaches, there are more questions coming up about creating and maintaining healthy, happy relationships. This week a big question that I heard was: "When does he become the person I thought he could be?" Hmmm…this is a pretty big topic, and one that can torpedo a [...]
As our upcoming teleseminar approaches all about creating and maintaining loving intimacy in relationships, I felt compelled to address a long-standing question that so many people who seek out marriage counseling ask me: “So…When will I be able to stop working so hard at my marriage?? When am I going to finally get to the [...]
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