As the world we live in feels increasingly stressful and chaotic, as well as painful and scary on many levels, we come together to connect and to learn new strategies for connecting to our resilience, and this latter part takes practice, patience and perseverance. In other words, this process takes time. Last week we did [...]

When your health and well-being are impacted, you have an opportunity (unwelcome though it may be) to make changes in habits and expectations that have developed.

One of the hardest habits to break when you’re a caregiver, and probably the hardest to see objectively, is the tendency to deprive yourself of the care you need to stay healthy, happy and clear-headed enough to honor and pursue your own desired outcomes. The self-deprivation habit shows up in many forms, and is held [...]

One of the hardest decisions caregivers face is whether to keep a loved one living at home or move them into an extended care, nursing home or rehab facility. Just considering it as an option often brings up tremendous guilt, and actually taking steps toward invoking that option – researching facilities, getting advice and comparing [...]

Change can be a scary thing, and the human brain is amazingly good at distracting us and keeping us “safe” from taking on challenges or changes that we’re afraid to attempt by making them seem impossible, complicated, undesirable or even boring. If you were to put it into words, one common example of this fear [...]

One of the unexpected and stressful realities of caring for those you love is that it often brings up many conflicting feelings. We have a vision in our minds of ourselves being patient, attentive and responsive to their every need so that they will feel our love at all times. That’s how we believe we [...]

Here’s another great question I received recently from a reader. It’s one that I know many people struggle with, so I thought I’d answer it in today’s installment of my  “Reader Q&A Series”… READER QUESTION #3 “I practiced speaking up this week, but I felt like no one heard me, because nothing changed. I don’t know how [...]

Let’s talk about Procrastination, a habit that wreaks havoc in some of our lives. According to the dictionary, procrastination is “the action of delaying or postponing something.” I use a different definition: “self-punishment.” Whether that surprises you or makes you nod your head in rueful recognition, keep reading! You’ll come away with a better understanding [...]

Today I’m wishing everyone a very happy July 4th! For this year, to make it even happier, I’m wishing everyone a true “day of independence” from what – for many of you, I’m sure – has been the ongoing, self-inflicted oppression of chronic self-sabotage. Why am I so sure that many of you sabotage yourselves? [...]

Nobody liked pop quizzes back in school…well okay, maybe the brainiacs liked them, but none of the rest of us did! They caused an instant feeling of dread, anxiety and resignation whenever the teacher announced one. Well, perhaps unbeknownst to you, you’re still having them! Now, however, they are something that can actually help you have [...]