This week I want to share with you a beautiful and thought-provoking article by Barry Jacobs that I read last week, since I expect you will probably appreciate it as much as I did.

Barry, in addition to being a clinical psychologist and family therapist, is also a former primary caregiver for his mom, who passed away last year. His piece is a combination memoir and philosophical assessment of his own response to the demands and challenges of being a family caregiver for your parent.

No matter what sort of relationship you have with the loved one(s) you care for, or how it may have been strained or changed by being in that role reversal with each other, Barry’s description of managing the challenges of communication will probably ring some familiar bells.

What comes through most clearly is that, with all the stress, frustration and occasional confrontations that often accompany the hard work of caring for a parent (or anyone else, for that matter!), it’s the love and commitment that keep you going – and those stay with you even after your loved one is gone.

I hope you, too, find some pearls of wisdom and inspiration in this wonderful article to guide you in your journey forward…. and we breathe… 


Feel free to leave a comment below about how anger shows up in your life, and what you’ve learned about yourself through your experience with anger. Or send me an email at and let me know what insights, questions and ideas for change this article brought up for you.

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